I gave a good friend of mine with Inattentive ADHD a baby gift of a weekly housekeeper for a month. I thought that the challenges of the new baby coupled with the demands of two children and a household might prove too difficult for her. Someone had given me this baby gift after my eldest son was born and it was, by far, the best baby gift that I was given. Some housekeepers do nothing but clean and some housekeepers do much more.
The greatest housekeepers organize drawers, cabinets, laundry closets, and individual rooms in such a way that will enable the housekeeper and you to keep things clean and organized. Great housekeepers can start you on a sustainable cleaning schedule and teach you the tools and tricks of keeping a house clean and organized. If you cannot afford to hire someone to come in weekly, get cleaning help on a monthly basis. Having someone organize and clean your house once a month will make it easier for you to keep your house neat and clean.
When you have ADHD anything that helps you get and stay organized is a huge blessing. A good housekeeper is especially helpful but a good ADHD coach can make an even greater positive impact in the life of a person with ADHD.
The strategies that ADHD coaches can help you with include:
The use of watches, timers, and deadlines both for accomplishing tasks and for the planning phase of task completion.
Some people with ADHD spend so much time planning what they need to do that they never actually do anything. People with ADHD also have a very poor sense of the amount of time it takes to complete a task and they can spend hours on something that should have taken 20 minutes. Perfectionism is the enemy of production and people with ADHD can find themselves over focusing on some minute detail of the project while ignoring the fact that much of the task is yet to be completed.
The use of family, friends, coworkers, and neighbors as partners and reminders of the tasks that need completing.
Assembling a 'team' of people who will hold you accountable and that will cheer you on as you trudge through your tasks makes the task completion more thorough, more predictable, and more satisfying.
Breaking down tasks into smaller pieces and making goals that are accomplishable.
Rome was not built in a day but when you are so far behind, the urge is to try to do everything in an attempt to 'catch up'. When the task at hand is huge, it is likely to appear undoable. Dividing the task into smaller pieces makes it something that appears manageable.
Recognizing and removing the obstacles that are getting in the way of your task completion.
If every time you set out to accomplish something, you get sidetracked by something else. It is time to recognize and remove that barrier from your ADHD life. For many people with ADHD, things like the phone, email, computer surfing, friendly neighbors, and disorganized homes and/or offices can occupy them for hours and keep them from accomplishing their goals. Recognizing and removing these barriers is an essential component of managing.
For people with ADHD, getting the right home care and coaching help is as essential as being on the right medication. Good housekeepers are best found by word of mouth and this link can help you find a great ADHD coach. Don't delay, these two professionals may change your life.
Seeing a life coach was one of the most positive experiences I had at University, shame I couldn't continue with it afterwards!
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Can you recommend any PI coaches?
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